![]() “It was almost incel-like, you could see their misogyny clearly,” she says.” I don’t like her poetry myself, but I don’t use that to be misogynistic against her.”īut here’s the thing: This might not even be about Kaur being a good poet or a bad poet. Twitter user who goes by “no name” online noticed men leaving creepy remarks on her viral tweet on Kaur. But it’s not uncommon to see memes and parodies on Rupi Kaur with misogynistic undertones-with some saying she would not have faced this if she were a white man. Kaur’s style has been made fun of, or at the very least, parodied, for so long that it’s hard to see any actual critique come through. Since then, the page is also being used as a platform to advocate for mental health, social and racial justice, and feminist issues. I was messing around with Instagram poetry one night and thought it would be fun to share with the world.” In a week, her page had 20,000 fans. It significantly impacted her life, but she didn’t let it destroy her.“I started the page on a whim one stoned night,” the anonymous woman running the page tells VICE from Montreal, Canada. Though it took time, she did overcome her trauma. She would sometimes flinch when someone touched her because she was afraid it was her abuser. She said that she felt numb.įor Rupi Kaur, abuse from her uncle had long-lasting effects For a while, her trauma led her to feel unsafe in sexual or physical situations, even when they were safe and consensual. After she explained her uncle’s actions, her therapist asked how she was feeling. She noticed that the doll was about the same size as the girls her uncle liked to abuse. In one therapy session, her therapist asked her to point to the area her uncle touched her. She recalls her assault in graphic detail. For Rupi Kaur, abuse like this was what shaped her perception of a woman’s role in society.Īs a child, Kaur was raped by her uncle. Kaur relates to the boy’s mother through the emptiness Kaur felt after the forced encounter. His father’s sexual demands towards his mother taught him that sex was a man’s right and a woman’s obligation. She explains that the boy was a product of the household he was living in. Instead, her body was meant to be given to those who wanted it. After this, Kaur believed that her body wasn’t her own. The first boy Kaur kissed held her down and forced himself on her. ![]() In her own experiences, she couldn’t draw the connection between sex and love for a long time. They may come and go as they please, but they never have to stay for long. It’s through this demand for submission that Kaur asserts that women have been taught that sex is similar to a pit stop for men. She submitted to the demands of the men in her life and remained silent and unseen throughout her childhood. When she tried to convince herself that she was allowed to exist and have an opinion, her insecurities would silence her. She would look at herself in the mirror and tell herself that she was nothing. This may have been because her father taught her that women having an opinion made them less desirable to the rest of society.īecause she was told to stay silent, Kaur began to view herself as unimportant. Her father was afraid of her voice, so she grew to be afraid of it too. Any time Kaur would try to speak up, her father and other men in her life would shut her down. Growing up, Kaur and her mother were told to be silent. For Rupi Kaur, abuse from men was also a part of life. Rupi Kaur: Abuse and OppressionĪs a child, Kaur saw that women were expected to be silent and subservient. ![]() Read more about Rupi Kaur, abuse, and oppression. These themes are present in her poems in milk and honey. ![]() She was raped by her uncle and silenced by the men around her. What happened to Rupi Kaur as a child? How did Rupi Kaur’s abuse shape her poetry?įor Rupi Kaur, abuse and oppression were a part of her childhood. Like this article? Sign up for a free trial here. Shortform has the world's best summaries and analyses of books you should be reading. This article is an excerpt from the Shortform book guide to "Milk and Honey" by Rupi Kaur.
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